I’ve recently been thinking about the power of words and their affect on meaning, interpretation and perception. It’s quite interesting how wording can change the essence of our written or verbal messages and the response or reaction of another. Changing the wording can engage a person in a positive or negative way and it can make a person want to listen or completely shut you out.
Moreover, even when I am selling coaching packages and programs I usually make offers on my social media platforms. The way I word the ads and how I write them will either engage an audience or the complete opposite, nothing will happen. This is true for all advertising and marketing tactics.
The same goes for the words we use with others in our relationships. Have you ever found yourself noticing the words you’re using with a specific person? Have you ever tried to change your words and see if they will respond in a different way? Getting our message across can be done in thousands of ways which will give you either positive or negative feedback.
I invite you to try it some time with your significant other. Try becoming aware of the words you are using. Change them around, use other more positive words. Pay attention to the words used by others. Are they encouraging? Or are they displeasing?
The point is that words matter, but most importantly words matter the most when we ‘re talking to ourselves. For the way we talk to ourselves will reflect the way we talk to others.
We all have an inner critic, right? You know that voice inside that says : “You’re not pretty enough, smart enough, slim enough, rich enough… etc, etc..” Thats the one!
Part of my work entails striving to lessen the power of ones inner critic through guided sessions by establishing ones core human values. When we identify our core human values we can begin to learn to live by them. The more we live in accordance to our values, the more the power of our inner critic dies. So, in essence we become kinder towards ourselves making sure that we use positive reinforcing words instead of negative ones. This is an important part of learning self care and self empowerment.
So, pay attention to the words you are telling yourself in your head because words have the power to hurt or they can have the power to heal.
Ask yourself this:
If you loved yourself, how would you talk to yourself?