Red light, Yellow light, Green light, Go!

Say you’re on a date having dinner and suddenly you get that icky feeling, its like an alarm clock going off in your body telling you that the man across from you is not right for you? Something is off! Something about what he’s saying to you, the way he’s saying it… What is he talking about? How he’s making you feel!

We as women are very intuitive and perceptive when it comes to our bodies and feelings. I am a firm believer of that. When something is not right, we can feel it to the core of our bones, but often we ignore it because of self doubt.

You know when you get that feeling in the pit of your stomach but tend to ignore it?

We tent to push it right down not giving it the attention it deserves because we have all these other voices going on in our heads telling us something else entirely !

Im overreacting, I should give him a chance, He might be the last chance I get. He’s here now, so I might as well give him the benefit of the doubt. I feel attracted to him!”

Monkey brain! Who’s familiar with this ?

I’ve had experiences with men in the past that have been enjoyable and then not so enjoyable.

I have a pattern. I know my pattern and it tends to be toxic which means its very bad for me.

I’ve had a tendency to go for unavailable, narcissistic toxic men.

My instincts today are wide awake and listening. Paying really close attention to the red flags and the feeling in the pit of my stomach.

I need to be able to answer certain questions because above all I need to keep myself safe, otherwise things go bad for me very fast. I get into compulsive codependent cycles that leave me feeling powerless, hopeless and very, very low. Lets face it, its very painful as well!

My emotional well being comes first above all else. Its not a selfish thing. It comes from a place of self care. Something which I write about a lot in my blog posts.

I work with women to enhance and promote their self empowerment in order for them to make better, healthier relationship choices that are aligned to their true self.

Choices that come from self love. That come from the heart.

I invite you, if you’re single and looking for a relationship, or you’re in a relationship but unhappy, to pay attention to that feeling in your stomach, that warning sign and know that if you feel somethings not right, then somethings not right! Thats all you need to know.

Trust your instincts and try making a table for yourself with green light signs, yellow light signs and red light signs. It will be very helpful for you because when it comes to romantic relationships, often our feelings of attraction are simply not enough and doesn’t mean that just because you’re attracted to him that he’s a right fit for you!

Below is a table of my list to give you an example for what works for me and what doesn’t.

GREEN LIGHT GO

YELLOW LIGHT (Warning Signs)

RED LIGHT (Deal Breakers)

Sense of humor

Makes harsh comments

Addict

Open minded

Has weird rel/ship with family

Narcissistic tendencies

Has friends

Tells me what to do

Puts me down

Is consistent

Is a loner

Isn’t spiritual

I feel normal (no weird feelings in my tummy)

Is inconsistent

Is controlloing

Is spiritual

Has no friends

Has no hobbies or interests

41. Silver Linings

Posted by CHRISTINA KYRANIS on MARCH 27, 2020

Hello my fellow bloggers! I hope you’re all happy, healthy and safe. It’s been an interesting last couple of weeks at home, I must say.

I find that I am rather enjoying the lockdown to tell you the honest truth.

I believe that if I look hard enough and pay attention, I can always find a silver lining to every hardship and adversity. When I can look at my life that way I am nearly always coming out on the other side with something to gain, not excluding having a positive mindset as well.

My silver lining is that in the past few weeks since the lockdown things have slowed down significantly if not completely in some areas. I like this. Compared to my very busy schedule of being a taxi cab driver to my children, work, shopping, cooking cleaning and homework, leaving me with very little time to do things that I love, now I seem to have all the time in world.

My time is precious to me, and recently I’ve had quite a bit of it and for that I have to say that I am grateful. Honest truth, is that I don’t mind staying in the house so much. I mean yes, it is confining, but you see, I am a home bug! I love staying home. I love cooking, reading, blogging and having my coaching sessions. All this makes me feel very content! But what I love even more so is the slow pace of things. The slowing down of things. This suits me. I think this above all is the kind of life I really prefer and enjoy living.

What might be a silver lining for the rest of the world?

Well, I’ve noticed and felt a coming together of the world as a whole. Beneath the suffering, the hardship and the fear, is a sense of, we are all in this together! On social media there has been a inflow of celebrities going live and singing and sending out inspiring messages. There is something settling and reassuring about this. It makes me feel like I am not so alone. There is comfort in knowing we are not the only ones having a particular experience, that everyone else is having the same experience at the same time. Thats amazing and fascinating. There is support to go around, and maybe, just maybe our planet has pressed the re set button. Maybe everything had to stop in order for some healing to take place.

So I urge you to try and find if there is a lesson you’ve learnt amidst all of this.

What, if anything have you learned about yourself during this lockdown and slowing down of the world as we know it?

And remember, try not to fear, for fear weighs down your immune system and we want our immune systems to be strong right now. Our mental state matters!

Practice self care and take this time to reconnect back to you!

About Christina Kyranis

A Relationship counselor and coach

I will always be interested in self-improvement and growth, for without them my soul will spiritually die. Mine is a journey of continually realizing my true self. My purpose is to help you reach the truest version of yourself. "Success in any endeavor depends on the degree to which it is an expression of your true self." Ralph Marston

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