What I Really Really want!

What do people really want when it comes to relationships? No matter our fears and judgements, deep down I believe all we want is to be seen, accepted and loved for who we really are. Even the narcissist self centered to the extreme is really seeking validation, approval, adoration and love. In romantic relationships this…

Brooding over Blogging

Its been a stressful week and I’m late in writing this blog post. I ‘ve made a commitment to myself that I would post twice a week so that I am more consistent in my writing. I’ve recently been working on follow through and consistency and I’ve had some positive results so far especially around…

Dealing with difficult people. Do I have to?

My absolute worst thing in the world is dealing with difficult people. I literally hate it, because I am extremely non confrontational and whenever I am obligated to directly disagree with people my pattern has been to run and avoid at all costs. Before I dive into my worst day ever, I think I have…

The 5 stages of a Relationship

As we grow older we realize that rushing into relationships is the wrong move. We can no longer afford to make the same mistakes when we were younger and more care free. The reason? Because with experience comes wisdom and with wisdom comes awareness. Awareness about our personal needs of self care. We no longer…

Playing the Super Hero

I believe that we all have learned to play different roles in our lives which can be traced back to our childhood. Each circumstance often calls for a different me, having to juggle my work self, my professional self and my parenting self just to name a few. I see myself switching to each role…

5 Red Flags in Dating

Wouldn’t it be great if we had so much experience in dating that we went in knowing exactly what to accept and not to? I wish I had been told these things way before I made my own mistakes in dating. My values back then were very weak. I basically just had one sole value….

Why am I an Addict?

What is addiction? Addiction is defined in the Cambridge English dictionary, as an inability to stop doing or using something that is harmful. Addiction can take on many forms and come in many disguises. In today’s world there are ampul things to be addicted to from food to sex, substances, television, Netflix, and social media…

Suggested books on healthy relationships & books to consult before dating

If the Buddha Dated: a Handbook for Finding Love on the Spiritual Path, by Charlotte Sophia Kaslhttps://www.amazon.co.uk/If-Buddha-Dated-Publisher-Non-Classics/dp/B004TMRUG2/ref=sr_1_2?crid=3S079AWAA8W3D&keywords=if+the+buddha+dated&qid=1580916690&s=books&sprefix=if+the+bu%2Caps%2C311&sr=1-2 Easy Does it Dating Guide for People in Recovery, by Mary Faulknerhttps://www.amazon.co.uk/s?k=easy+does+it+dating+guide+for+people+in+recovery&i=stripbooks&ref=nb_sb_noss Calling in “The One”, by Katherine Woodward Thomashttps://www.amazon.co.uk/s?k=callling+in+the+one&i=stripbooks&ref=nb_sb_noss_2 How to be an Adult in Relationships, David Richohttps://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Be-Adult-Relationships-Mindful/dp/1570628122/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3OJEYWO16U94W&keywords=how+to+be+an+adult+in+relationships+david+richo&qid=1580917015&s=books&sprefix=how+to+be+an+adult%2Cstripbooks%2C430&sr=1-1 Getting the Love you Want, Harville Hendrickshttps://www.amazon.co.uk/Getting-Love-You-Want-Couples/dp/0743495926/ref=sr_1_1?crid=TTPLGMICWNN6&keywords=getting+the+love+you+want+harville+hendrix&qid=1580917078&s=books&sprefix=getting+the+love+you+%2Cstripbooks%2C261&sr=1-1 Couple Skills,…