One question plagues the minds of many men and women today, “how will I find true love?” I know it plagues mine, especially if you’re 40 and single. It can be daunting when at social gatherings one is introduced, you know the comment is coming and their next statement is “nice to meet you, and where is your partner?” My answer reluctantly is “oh, I am single and loving it.” Or, “I am divorced and single with two kids.” Ugh! Often replying with a huge grin on my face, trying to hide the embarrassment.
I won’t lie, being single has its pay offs, but deep down, we all want to share our lives with someone special. However, at the age of 40 most of us are more mature and set in our ways. We are not willing to settle for just anyone. So, where does one start? How do we go about looking for the right one if you’re 40 and divorced, or 40 and never married, or 40 and still single, or 40 and fed up with all your failed relationships?
One might think that finding the “one” is a matter of looking in the right place, but I would say that the right place to start is with yourself. The where comes after. Firstly, we must be aware of what we are looking for and why. To know this, we must know ourselves.
Applications provide us with profiles set to accommodate exactly what we’re looking for, apps such as Tinder, Bumble, Grindr, and Blendr are just to name a few. These can help you with the “where”, but not only. Online dating is a very popular way to meet new people. Gone are the days where you might go up to someone having coffee across from you and say HI! Today its all about texting, chatting and sexting. If you want to meet someone today you must update your ways.